Friday, May 4, 2012

Why why why

I think there must be something wrong with me. I have exceptionally high standards with regards to how people behave. As much as I would love to, I can never seem to achieve the level of smiling, nodding and agreeing.

Bitching, backstabbing, claiming credit and pushing blame has never gone nicely down my alley. In fact, this is the reason why I've always preferred freelancing. Being an external entity has always kept me safe from whatever politics there could possibly be.

Well, at least until the point where I've realized that some people just don't know where to draw the line.

Here it is: ------------------

Please do not cross.

I know that I tend to come off a little cold this way, by building these walls but hey, no friendship is built upon one sided stories and incessant whining. Besides, it is not in my job scope to listen to gossip.

I must apologize, dear readers, for the negativity of this post. Am I the only person that detests politics so? How do you handle these yucky situations? And what do you think I should do to keep myself out of the sticky mess? It's making me miserable!


Unknown said...

Thought I should comment since I can totally empathise with you on the nasty business of politicking.

First and foremost, I think its important to keep one's professional and personal life somewhat apart if possible. Of course, there will be friends who are business partners/colleagues, and vice versa. However, your dealings with each situation should be different (ie put on a different hat each time).

Next, consider how you can approach the subject with the "offender" in a non-confrontational but transparent manner. Arrange a coffee or lunch with the person and talk face-to-face.

Perhaps the person may not even know that he or she is causing you grief. If the person is guilty as charged, then his/her response to the session would also help to settle it once and for all.

The most important thing is to AVOID DUKING IT OUT ONLINE. I have seen spats between bloggers and friends on Facebook, Twitter, Blogs and Forums which have gone very ugly. The Internet never forgets, and the last thing you want to do is to leave a permanent digital scar on the landscape.

To me, seeking closure on a relationship rift caused by backstabbing/gossips/politicking is important in contributing towards peace of heart and mind. As a Christian, I believe in what Jesus has said about not letting the sun go down on your anger and to make peace with your neighbour.

Hope the above helps for whatever its worth. :)

Joanne-Marie said...

Hi Walter, thanks for your great advice! I'm generally not a confrontational person so the coffee probably won't happen. However, after a good nights sleep what I've decided to work with is to walk away whenever the act of bitching seems to be about to happen. I, too, feel that dunking out feelings online is not the way to go, but I'm really at my wits end. Thank goodness I don't go around mentioning names!